Is it not painfully obvious that we treat women badly? Is there a man who does not know at least one woman who has been sexually assaulted? Personally, I know dozens of women who have been. The truth
I wish our society would expend a lot more effort into figuring out how to dissuade men from exploiting, assaulting or otherwise harming women. We do not seem to put any real effort as a society into changing our misogynistic culture. The best we offer as men is benign platitudes about respecting women while we keep the language and media of exploitation fully active.
When we realized smoking was harmful we changed our whole outlook as a society about it. We sucked the oxygen out of the cool factor. Couldn’t we do that with sexism?
We love our daughters but not enough to train our sons to keep their mouths and minds out of the gutter.
I love my shoot em up movies. I hate the gratuitous female beauty who is there solely to titillate. I love my shoot em ups. I hate when the tough lady suddenly starts bawling at the losses while the men keep their composure.
I could keep this up all day. The list of sexist messages we either approve of or fail to openly disapprove contribute to a culture where truly helpless people are harmed, psychologically, emotionally and/or physically.
I seem to be the only person I know who gets pissed off watching dance shows and the women have to compete with high heels and flimsy outfits as if that has some relevance to their skill. (“Ginger Rogers did everything Fred Astaire did, except backwards and in high heels.”)
This is what happens when I sit home and watch television and take pain pills. It is also what happens when I see depictions of harm done to women, children or persons or living beings unable to defend themselves. I generally don’t mind watching men beat themselves silly, fantasy or reality. Or “tough broads” fighting or killing. I love my shoot em ups.
But it is not enough to get pissed off about this stuff. It is long past due where men need to participate in the sexual revolution that resulted in women evolving socially, sexually and intellectually. I swear it seems we men just stood by with stupid grins on our faces while it all went down.
Time to man up and put meaning into the word “gentleman”. Not complicated. Break it down. Practice love, do no harm, hit the reset button. Listen, observe and wait before we speak the next anti-woman expression, whether all in fun or in anger or from ignorance.
The stakes are high. Just say no to misogyny. Or anything that even sounds demeaning.
Update…The recent release of parts of Clinton’s book and the recordings of Trump speaking crudely are trumpets sounding. Women are appalled. Why not men. Not interested in the few exceptions of righteous indignation. I mean where is the groundswell of umbrage that these things can happen so publicly without consequence.